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Coming Clean

The first step in forgiveness is the willingness to forgive. – Marianne Williamson


If you could see me as I am writing this, you would be looking at a previous World Champion of Grudge-Holders.  Oh, I do come by it honestly.  You see, I am a human being, a person just like you, and as such, I tend to cling to complaints, seize slights, and take tabs on transgressions.  I have since become better (I think) at letting go of the perceived wrongdoings of others, but only after I came around to asking others to forgive me.  Yes, you read that right.  I had to first ask forgiveness for my own faults before I could truly begin to forgive those who had hurt me, whether these “crimes” against me were committed knowingly or unknowingly.

I have a wonderful friend, a very classy lady indeed.  At one time, early in our relationship, I developed a tremendous jealousy, not about her as a friend, but of her as a competitor.  She is absolutely beautiful, she can sing like an angel, she can dance with elegance, she can write songs, plays, and prose.  She has an adoring husband and a spectacular home.  She had the whole enchilada, and I had a cheese taco.  One day, and I cannot tell you the catalyst or cause, I knew that I needed to confess my feelings to her, and I needed to do it that day! After choir practice that evening at church, I ran to catch up to her in the parking lot.  I revealed my enviousness to her, and asked her to forgive me for my bitter attitude.  She replied that she had no idea that I ever felt anything like this resentment, and she forgave me.  She forgave me!  It was as if a mammoth millstone had been removed from my mind.  Today, we are even better friends.   She is still beautiful, graceful, and elegant, and I am still me – and I am forgiven.

Sometimes, we are called to forgive a wrong done to us knowingly by another.

Sometimes, we are called to forgive a wrong done to us of which the culprit is unaware.

Sometimes, we are called to ask for forgiveness for something we have done.

Sometimes, we are called to ask for forgiveness for something we have done of which the victim is unaware.

Sometimes, we are called to forgive ourselves.

Most of us need time to work through pain and loss. We can find all manner of reasons for postponing forgiveness. One of these reasons is waiting for the wrongdoers to repent before we forgive them. Yet such a delay causes us to forfeit the peace and happiness that could be ours. – James E. Faust

Your history is history.  How you react to it can make you better or it can make you bitter.  The future is up to you – what is your choice?


…everything beautiful in its time…

He has made everything beautiful in its time.  Ecclesiastes 3:11a

What is beauty?  What makes something beautiful?

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”  While this adage is true, I believe that beauty is also in the ears of the beholder, the mouth and nose, the sensation of touch, in the mind of the beholder.  Think about it.  You have heard beautiful music, but you did not see it.  You have felt beautiful emotions, like love and friendship.  You smell certain scents and beautiful memories come flooding your thoughts.  All of these are beauty that are not in the eye of the beholder.  Beauty is most often beheld in the heart of the beholder.

I find beauty everywhere I go, whether in a sunset, a child’s face, a completed craft project, music, a gentle touch, an embrace, even in a well-organized pantry!  My goal is multi-faceted:  I want to help you find beauty in your everyday life and help you to appreciate it, no matter what form it takes; I want to share ways to incorporate beauty into your home, your relationships, your world; I want to encourage you to share the beauty you have discovered.  Raising a family, painting the walls, growing flowers, continuing education, whatever is it that can bring beauty to this world – if I can share it, it will be shared.

I am a wife, a mother of six, and a grandmother of seven and counting!  I am a college student/graduate, a trainer and workshop teacher, an early childhood education professional, a children’s ministry worship leader, a camp director, and an artist/musician/writer.  I am your everyday, somewhat “normal” woman who cares deeply for those around me, and who wants to make every life I touch better in some small way.

My ultimate goal is to be an encourager to you.  Join me on this journey to beautiful, and see what we can discover together!